Vicki Allen Counselling & Psychotherapy Glasgow, Scotland

How can I help?

You may have arrived here because you feel stuck or flat or numb. Or wrung out. No time for you. Always there to help others, and sometimes taking on too much and not knowing how to say no. Boundaries are difficult. Not knowing where your partner (or friend or mother or boss) ends and where you begin. Which are their likes, dislikes, and opinions? And which are yours?

I know that I’m not a fixer – I can’t fix other people. But I absolutely believe people don’t need fixing. In my experience, we generally need a bit of time and space to air our feelings, our stuckness, our chaotic inner experiences with all their pain and uncertainty. I can sit with that uncertainty and pain, and explore it with you very gently. Because I firmly believe that the answers lie where the pain is. I can do this partly because of my training and experience, but in large part because I’ve been there.

In the words of Pema Chödrön: Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others.